The Psychosis Continues....
Just when I didn't think it could get any worse....
That little slut is back.
And I now can't sleep yet again.
He says he's going to handle it.
But unfortunately he's still saying buzz words like "unless by some miracle" regarding their friendship being salvaged.
This tells me that he's still not of the mindset I wish he were.
And that hurts a lot.
So much for my PMS getting any easier.
This boat is sinking...
Fast....
The question is....
Are there any lifeboats available?
That little slut is back.
And I now can't sleep yet again.
He says he's going to handle it.
But unfortunately he's still saying buzz words like "unless by some miracle" regarding their friendship being salvaged.
This tells me that he's still not of the mindset I wish he were.
And that hurts a lot.
So much for my PMS getting any easier.
This boat is sinking...
Fast....
The question is....
Are there any lifeboats available?
posted by Sassy Southern Belle @ 12:44 AM
3 Comments:
At 8:01 AM,
Impossible Jane said…
I'm starting to get the picture. Is your boy talking to his ex? If so I can so relate. Not fun, not fun at all. It get's rather uncomfortable.
Sorry. Jane
At 8:26 AM,
Sassy Southern Belle said…
No.
If it were an ex at least I could understand it somewhat. You see, there's this little whore who he used to work with who's been nothing but shady. She used to call the house and when I'd answer she'd say "Is Jason there" rather than "Hello" and when I started responding with "And this is???" she stopped calling the house and would ONLY call his cell phone. Avoidance 101, right? She would just act wrong - there is a long laundry list - and J wasn't much better because his actions were different when she was involved. He wouldn't deal with the issue so I took it upon myself to contact her and set up a meeting. I wanted to clear the air and have 1 on 1 time to let her know that she was making me uncomfortable and that I wanted to get to know her and get everything off my chest and to try to make things o.k.. Well, that went horribly seeing as how she verbally came at me - screaming in my face when we did meet and being nothing but nasty. I'm sorry, but if she wasn't after him, then she wouldn't have reacted the way she did. I told J what happened and he said he wouldn't have anything to do with her anymore. She has continued to send him e-mails (mass mailings mostly) and IMd him a few months ago. Last night she sent an e-mail directly to him. My big issue is that he says things like "if she wants to be part of our lives again" whereas in my opinion he shouldn't want anything more to do with her. As I told him, if one of my friends had treated him the way she treated me I'd have lobbed their heads off and then cut them loose immediately rather than avoiding the issue. After this latest e-mail it's finally at a head. He knows he has to handle this and that he has to tell her a thing or two and cut her skanky ass loose. He claims to be angry about the situation and that he wanted to handle it. He hasn't yet because he wanted to just hope it would go away. Notsomuch. So here we are. We'll see if he actually confronts her like he's needed to for a long time now. My biggest issue is that he's playing like he's "in the middle" of the two of us. He should be on my side without question - and he should be more defensive of me and the way I'm treated. So that's the condensed version.
At 10:24 AM,
Sassy Southern Belle said…
Oh, and as I was driving to work I thought of another point I wanted to post on this topic.
A month or two ago I was talking to a close friend and discovered that she'd gone to school with this little tramp. Apparently she has a nasty little habit of getting fixated on guys who are younger than her (which J is) who have long standing girlfriends. She has a history of going after these guys and doing everything in her power to break up the relationship so that she can sink her meat hooks into him. I guess a leopard really doesn't change it's spots, eh?
The other thing I wanted to mention is that once upon a time ago I was a scrappy pup. I would get into physical fights with anyone, anytime, anywhere. Thanks largly in part to my last boyfriend, I've become a much calmer person who no longer lashes out when angered. I went from one extreme to another. Rich basically helped me to become more like Dharma from "Dharma & Greg" and to be a person who tries to calmy and rationally talk things through - someone who avoids confrontation rather than seek it out. This was the most precious gift I've ever been given.
Since all that has gone down with this little parasite the old urges are starting to come back - which I see as a VERY bad thing. She makes me want to physically pummel her. I get these images in my head of bashing her face in and just beating the tar out of her. I really don't like to feel this way - I don't think it's good for me to even be having these types of thoughts towards another person - but it seems that my old knee jerk reaction is trying to break out again.
When I had my little "talk" with her I remained completely calm, never raised my voice and didn't cuss once. If anything, it was me trying to "soothe" her and get her to TALK to me rather than yell. I was proud of myself then. The old Liz would've smashed her head in. Looking back now, I think perhaps I should've just unleashed - at least verbally - on her.
The big issue here is J's lack of action. If he'd had handled this issue from the get go I don't think it would've ever gotten to this point.
The last time she contacted him (via IM) was when all of my medical problems started with my stomach. I stopped sleeping for about a week and started getting very sick. The stress of this situation is now physically harming me. Before it was just mental - now it's escalated.
I sincerely hope he does handle this and that he grows a pair and lets this pathetic excuse for a woman go. I don't understand WHY he feels he needs her friendship so very much. Granted, I'm the type of person who keeps my circle of friends very small and people are discarded if I feel it's necessary. I don't have a problem doing that. He obviously does.
Like I said, though....
I can only hope that he honestly says what he claims he's going to say to her (i.e. - he's pissed off and so am I and she's no longer permitted to contact him in any way) and that this can finally come to an end. I asked him if he would be holding this against me. He said no, that she'd dug her own grave. I asked him if this would be like the two girls - only one of which he's talked to - who disrespected me at our St. Pat's party whereas he'd keep putting it off. He said no, that he intends to handle this immediately. This bitch has been a topic he and I have fought over for far too long. It's time for him to act like a man and deal with it.
Sorry for the rant....
I just kept rolling this deal over in my head on my drive in and wanted to continue....
:)
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