Dilema Time...

So.
I now have a major delima on my hands...
Something I will surely mull over and over and then ask my friend's opinions of before continuing to mull...
See, "we" got a Christmas card from someone...
And I don't know if J wants to send one back (probably does) and if I should beat him to the puch so the card will be in MY handwriting if he does.
Hmmm....

To Sum Up The Scene:

J has this ex-c0-worker from years ago. This chick. When J and I started living together 2+ years ago was when I first met her. She came into our apartment and disregarded me completely. And I totally got the vibe from her that she digs J.
Fast forward...
So, she called on like a weekly basis and had him on the phone for minimum of an hour to whine about her "mean" boyfriend (oh woe is to her !)....
Also, during this time, J's female friends (some of them) were getting into the habit of calling the house and, when I answered the phone, treating me like I was the f-ing secretary. My solution? When one of these little triffles came along and answered my "Hello?" with "Is J home" I'd then respond with "Who's this?". Upon my instituting this rule this little ho immediately stopped calling our house phone and ONLY called him on his cell.
Sneaky a bit much?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?!
J, I know, wasn't doing anything out of line. He's home constantly so it's not like I was fearing he was having an affair...
Anyway....
J knew I didn't like her at all and so decided the three of us should go out to dinner.
BAD idea.
She flirted with him the ENTIRE night RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. The boy is OBLIVIOUS.
Fast Forward some more...
It all came to a head and I requested a meeting with her - - - just the two of us.
When we did meet I went into it trying to explain my position and my feelings.
She got snotty, nasty and completely acted guilty though defiant and that was that.
J hasn't heard from her since.
Not too obvious, is she????
Anyway...
Now the little tramp has sent a Christmas card to our new house.
The envelope?
Addressed just to J.
The card has both our names inside of it though.
I know she did this just to piss me off.
DUH.
So now the great debate begins....
I almost don't want to ask him because that'll open a whole can of worms.
He told me about this card last night on our way to my parents house in CT....
And though I didn't yell or anything, my reaction was not good...
So now what?
Hhmmpphh....
Time to bring out the arsenal of friends and debate the topic !